How to Make Your Ex Return Your Calls

Curious? Would you like to know how to do it?

What are those magic words you wonder? Believe it or not there are words which will almost cast a spell over him/her to make them feel compelled to return your call.

We will share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions we get from over 35,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.

How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?

In Travis’ book advertised on the web site he lays a complete strategy on how best to do this.

Beware of the trap, tread softly, softly. If you use this technique alone, without an ‘overall’ plan or strategy…it is possible to damage your relationship more than ever. So take care and make sure you first of all know what not to say.

There is a message or a style of messaging which almost never works and may put you in a most difficult psychological position.

DON’T PLEAD!!!!

“John, please, please call me. This is the 3^rd time I have called. I really have to talk to you.”

DON’T USE AN EMERGENCY

“Mary, this is a real emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”

Can you see what’s wrong what is wrong with both of those approaches? Its quiet obvious this is a demand for him/her to call you which will be obvious to the recipient and guess what goes through their mind.

The more subtle approach is to use curiosity or self interest which always stimulates interest. Now if you combine the two. Wham! Bam!

You have a magic cocktail.

So what can you say that will stimulate the other’s interest and works nearly every other time?

Now be friendly when you make the call and say something like this:

“Hi John, its Mary here. I just wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Please call me because I want to thank you in person.”

John will not be able to resist!

“What did I do? What does she appreciate I wonder?”

He will feel good because it is a positive message even though he can’t for the life of him remember what he did.

It’s most important to have an answer otherwise you’ll be the fool in his/her eyes.

It can be any small thing though bigger the better but above all it has to be plausible.

To get the full benefit of Travis advice I would recommend you get his book which sets this out in great detail before you make the call.

Travis has an underlying strategy in the “The Magic of Making up System” on my website which you would find useful to read before you make the call.

A word of warning here. If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.

What you must do before, during and after you get them to return your call is more important than getting them to return your call.

Have a PLAN.

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First of all I do not want to turn my blog into a commentary about global warming but I couldn’t resist making a comment or two before and after Copenhagen and state in my previous blog what I thought the outcome was likely to be. Now we know the final outcome was not spectacular; a mere piece of paper generated by a few countries which had the semblance of an agreement without any legal authority so to speak which is what I sort of expected.

Now I think that the event was much more fruitful than it appeared simply because there was apparently a desire to reach an agreement evidenced by the overtime that was spent by all participants trying to get an agreement. In other words there appeared to be a lot of motivation to achieve something. I saw crowds of participants rushing to and fro on T V maybe just looking for the loo but I thought their intent to attend those meetings was real.  It’s really not surprising that China didn’t have the courage to pull the shutters up but then look at the way their country is run. It would appear most people in China don’t want a repressive authority to run their country so those in power are afraid to make themselves, as they see it, vulnerable to outside influences because they just might lose control. India, I believe, was also shy about making a commitment but then without much money in the kitty but the prospect of making heaps in the future who could blame them. America appeared to be generous to degree with their $100,000,000 offer but that was a nonsense at this time in reality since they are broke and China owns most of their bonds.

My feeling is that all countries of the world now have a deeper feeling of the problem of global warming than ever before and they will find in their conscience that it cannot be ignored. Next time they meet it will be a big change of attitude and a sensible outcome will be achieved I am certain about that. After all the clock is ticking and we don’t have much time left.

The way the world economy is run and all that results from it has a finite life span. “Progress” is moving at lightning speed and is growing exponentially. To cope with that we have to dig the STUFF they need out of the ground like crazy! I wouldn’t do that I would save some for later.

We don’t live in a contented world where we are happy with the basics of life as I believe we once were. Instead ego and greed are the driving forces. People forget that if everyone on the planet had the same standard of living as those in the USA then we would need six planets.

Then there is the problem of global warming which will only get worse as greed will regulate the atmosphere not common sense. We know we have passed peak oil which again can only mean the price of petrol will rise to phenomenal levels perhaps in less than ten years. Then there is the problem of food. Already there is a grave shortage in any parts of the world which will only get worse as the population gets bigger and the climate change adversely affects the farmer’s crops.

You would have to ask if the bureaucrats had really got a handle on the world’s problems. Of course not! Fiddling around and making deals at Copenhagen to limit carbons emissions won’t solve a thing always assuming someone gives an inch which to me is doubtful in any real sense. What is needed is a gigantic change to the whole structure and way of life in the world. That would not only solve the climate problem but also the financial ones. The way we live in western countries means we get more and more selfish. We want more and we are never satisfied with what we have which in turn feeds the massive money making machine called progress. The rich get richer and the rest get more and more into debt trying to buy all the things on offer motivated by advertising including food. In general you could say we get fatter having more things to make us poorer!

The bins get collected regularly full of STUFF we can’t eat because we waste a lot, stuff we don’t want and our out of date used toys. Our working CRT TVs will get dumped for flat screens now we are becoming digital all filling up the rubbish tips. The faster and better new models of everything we produce the more resources are used up; most of us get into debt one way or other so we pay enormous fees for credit and the financiers are laughing because they can hardly spend our money fast enough. The rich retain their self respect by giving tiddly bits to charity which of course qualifies them for a tax deduction and leaves a mere scratch on their ever increasing bank account totals.

Then more and more people are being crammed into less and less space. We all know what happens in the animal kingdom when that happens. Maybe that’s one cause of drunken violence. There is not much indication that most people are becoming more loving and caring. People are becoming less so because their purpose for existence apart from sex – which is more of a sport these days than it ever used to be and I don’t only include golfers in this – is having THINGS. Spiritualty is becoming rare. The church questionably once supplied some of that sort thinking and guidance but never true spirituality. Today, many services now are more like a sales meeting for Jesus and a threat at the end to pay up or else Hell will be your next destination. We all know that evangelists pocket most of the loot so Jesus doesn’t really benefit. It’s a sad world full of mostly selfish people who only want money and THINGS like an expensive car or a large yacht. Damn it, wish I could join them! Well not really! Although it would be a thrill at first and money is useful stuff but as I’ve learnt in my quest for spirituality it would be short lived happiness and not long term satisfying. They say the rich are always trying to protect their wealth so they have money worries too.

Something needs to change before it’s too late. But will it? I have found big companies and politicians would not voluntarily look round the corner to see if the wind of change was blowing (unless it hit them hard enough) especially if it meant changing something they’ve been happy with for centuries and such change might bring about a sense of unpopularity with V I Ps, poor chance of re-election and a lot of extra work. Naa! Naa!

It’s business as usual, crisis management will prevail and no-one will stand up and say things to advocate the real change to society that’s needed! Global warming you’ve won.

Now I thought it was worth mentioning that I seriously thought about writing about golf but I decided against it because the birdies might cause problems later.

A couple had just retired to bed. After twenty years of marriage the petting had slowly become very infrequent so the wife was delighted when her husband began touching her.

He tickled her around the neck and dug deeply into the pillow underneath her head then worked his way slowly under the chin and around her perky breasts and under the chest. He continued downwards to her stomach area.

Then he changed direction and moved his hand up to the hollow under her arm pit and worked his way around, first on one side then the other. He tickled her as he did so and she squirmed with delight. Then he changed tactics and moved his hands over her breasts again down to her groin area. She loved it. He first felt around her buttocks and thighs on one side then the other then he forced his hand through her closed legs and began to feel upwards along her inner thighs. She was getting ecstatic and excited. He slowly worked his way up to her crutch and she wriggled and started breathing deeply. Suddenly he withdrew his hand altogether.

She waited a few seconds before she realised he had stopped then she jerked her head up. “You stopped sweetheart. Why?” he didn’t reply. “Hey, you got me all excited and then when it was getting really interesting you stopped. Was it something I did, darling?”

He took his hand from under the sheets while holding something in his right hand. Then the T V came on.

He replied, “I found the remote.”

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We hear how useful Myspace, Facebook and Twitter are becoming useful as free marketing tools so why not use them to the greatest affect? I have read numerous articles on the subject before putting my own thoughts on paper so perhaps they are not so original. But since everyone has a personal view reading mine may give you a different slant.

I decided Facebook would be the place to start because I’ve not been active with Myspace to date and the two are somewhat similar. Twitter is a different type of site and one on which I often post a line or two but limited when it comes to photos.

That’s not me but my granddaughter at her Christening a few years back. The contrast between us may shock you but here it is. I will also confess I am totally grey since my pic was taken.

So for today I thought I would concentrate on Facebook and give you my outline of how best to make an impression on your friends and potential customers. As I assume you are basically a stranger to all the people that call themselves “friends” but since they have decided to read your blog or your comments and if their interest had been sufficiently stimulated they will go to look you up in your profile. If you want to impress it’s best to give them some personal information. People who hide behind graphics or cartons are hardly likely to make any impact. You will have a photo of yourself available and pics of you and your partner having fun would be great. People relate to people! It therefore all helps to establish you as a real person rather than a nonentity who just churns out words and advice.

BRAGGING SESSION

I don’t have a lot of family shots because I’m the one who usually takes the pictures. The ones taken of me are most likely to be when I’ve been acting in some movie. I do that both as an amateur and a professional but despite my enormous talent I have only had small roles in movies but as an amateur actor on stage I had many leading roles. I have one or two I’ll be adding shortly to my Facebook:

This was shot of me on the set of Kasey Chamber’s “Like a River”. I was the song and dance man though all I did to be honest was to prance around with my brolley in the downpour from the hose pipe.

Here are a few more pics from my earlier acting days. I can’t remember who I was in bed with except she was female (in case you hadn’t noticed), I’ve never held a commission in the army but I was a banker in “Peter Pan” the movie shot at Movie World on the Gold Coast.

So if you have some skills or photos to stimulate interest don’t hesitate to show them to your adoring public.

So about my past, I hope the CIA don’t see this! I was a singer as a child and did many stage performances so strangely enough when I had to leave school I decide to become a government scientist with the MOD in the U K. When I graduate from college they made me an Assistant Experimental Officer and gave me all sorts of things to do in electronic development work. Some of those developments proved successful and I moved to bigger and better things during that employment. Naturally I am being brief because if I went into detail on the various projects I could fill a book. So at the end of that career when Margaret Thatcher decided she didn’t want so many government scientists some of us took early retirement. The time was right for me having just completed a four year project with a team of young men. We had successfully made a prototype electronic telephone exchange as part of a large range of new innovative electronic devices and successfully demonstrated it to NATO generals and the U S as the new communication system for the military. God knows what happened to it?

During this period, I learned to be a glider pilot and did power flying as well and also became a thespian at the local theatre where I tended to get lead roles quite frequently.

I moved from U K to New Zealand and became a company manager. I also learned a lot about philosophy in N Z from the School of Philosophy in Auckland but my family and I could not really settle there so we moved on to Australia after a few years.

Employment was a problem in Australia and I couldn’t get my teeth into anything as I had done in New Zealand. I thought real estate would be a good back up job so I took various exams which included Real Estate law and maths so I could up my commissions which I never got. I resurrected my interest in ballroom dancing and got another Gold Medal. I took the Investment advisors exam which I passed with distinction and worked at that for a few years then when the markets crashed I went back into engineering with a firm of consultants.

That was the time the De Lorentis Studios opened on the Gold Coast and I had such a cosy relationship with the casting director I could get a small part in first T V series in Australia in Mission Impossible every time I could take a day off. Then I went to acting school and graduated as a pro actor.

Then I thought I might survive better if I worked from home so I trained as a masseur. I qualified in Swedish and Sports massage. I have the greatest respect for naked ladies wanting me to rub my hands all over them but so many of the men got excited before I’d even started. I couldn’t handle this so I gave it away.

Obviously there is more to my various careers than this but I think it gives most people a good overview. I am always willing to give something a go that really grabs my interest like the Internet. I will make some suggestions in my next blog.

I was reading a number of blogs the other day when I came across one in particular – like many others I’ve seen in the past have to say – offering to Reveal the Secrets of Internet Marketing. Many people have made that offer already and mostly simply talk you through the steps of making a website on video, uploading it to a hosting company, connecting up to a transponder etc. I wouldn’t call that a secret! It’s important to a newbie of course but you can have the best looking website in the world and get zero sales if you have no one going to look at it. What every budding Internet entrepreneur wants to know is the cheapest and most effective way to market his or her site successfully. So surely that’s a secret worth revealing though I have to add if everyone is offering these secrets on line in some form or other what is secret about them? Isn’t there a saying along the lines a secret revealed is a secret no more?

The first thing you may hear when you come onto the Internet is the money is in the list and maybe another old saying so often repeated, if you continue to do what you have always done then you will get what you’ve always got. All true of course but hardly a secret. Maybe you are banging your head against a (metaphorical) brick wall but you cannot see how to change things. Perhaps even though you do not lack incentive or motivation by what you are doing you find it frustrating because it is not yielding good results. I have been there, done that and it’s all too common. Then I found a site designed by experienced marketers that organised my thinking and processes to change all that. Take a look here. That is what I would call the pathway to success because success does not come to you like the Big Bang theory but rather after time and effort.

In summary, the secret of success on the Internet is to get known as a supplier of relevant, quality information and you will become a dominant force to be reckoned with. If you don’t have much knowledge of your own right now then do your own research and pass it on to others. By giving a service to others in that way you become knowledgeable, make yourself known to others, gain respect and make yourself money. If you lack organisation in your sales and marketing or want to find out the best way I have seen on the Internet to get organised to make money go here.

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I am really excited to announce I have now got an arrangement with Liz Tomey so I can promote her extremely useful websites for Internet Marketers. Just in case you haven’t heard of Liz, she got started in the marketing world at the age of 19 by building up her own direct mail/mail order business. Liz created several products and services to help others in the direct mail/mail order business build their businesses quickly and easily. She has successfully run this business since 1998.

In late 2004 Liz took the Internet marketing arena by storm by creating products and services especially for Internet marketers. These proven to work products have allowed Liz to become the well-known and the liked Internet marketer that she is today. I am honoured to be working with her on these projects even though I have to confess she will provide most if not all the content. I will add my comments about this arrangement on this blog in due course.

These are the web addresses:

Http://is.gd/x3Qp

http://is.gd/G9Wv

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http://is.gd/x3XL

Please let me have your feedback.

You are probably one of the many who is looking at the Internet to make money. I’m sure you’ve seen or been told that your chances are slim. Most people find it’s quoted statistically a 98% failure rate. So when you come across those programs which more or less guarantee your success you feel confident enough to part with your money rather than start a business of your own. There is also a perception that you’ll make huge money in months if not days on the Internet. I don’t believe that! Like any business, it takes time to get established, to get your name known and gain confidence with your potential customers.

My conclusion is formed from over three years of trying and that’s not long to turn failure into success on the Internet according to some. Many of those that make it without a manufacturing business of some kind have discovered a trick along the way to get success and despite what the site owner might say to you he will guard that knowledge with his life because after all it is his income source. If everybody knows how to do what he does then he no longer has a competitive edge, that to me is obvious so it’s unlikely he would divulge that knowledge for any amount of money.

Many people who are successful usually have something unique to offer. There are ladies making a fortune out of making and selling bikinis, there are people selling their own cosmetics or potions of some kind and there are those who are clever at selling other people’s products which you probably know is called affiliate marketing.

Look a little deeper at the people who have achieved an Internet business success and you will see the hours of dedication they have put in to make their dream come true. Its just like any other business if you want it to succeed, you have to work at it. It doesn’t just happen by chance.

Some entrepreneurs are clever in their marketing to you and by listening to their videos it appears they really offer something unique which you feel if you had access to you too would soon be making millions. I signed up for one of those recently. Yes, I admit the marketing was clever and the ideas for money making sounded quite unique to me. I had my doubts earlier and looked at the site several times before deciding to sign up. Even after I decided to give it a go the doubts came back when I found there were two options of payment offered and only one of them worked, that was the one which only allowed you to pay them with your credit card. I hesitated for a while before finishing the transaction.

Having been given a login using my email address in both boxes and I was able to bypass another offer of additional mentoring at a price of course before entering the main page. Now I was able to download several videos which explained to me how to make money getting others to this website to make a sign up. I didn’t like that; I would not recommend anyone buy something without in depth knowledge of what I was trying to sell to them first. The next thing that annoyed me was I logged in on the next occasion having given myself a new login password and I found myself stuck on the login page with a link to the additional features for sale. This meant I couldn’t access the main website pages with the other information about their specially money making marketing schemes. I saw this arrangement as holding me to ransom. To put it more succinctly, if I wanted to know more I had to pay more. I won’t succumb to that sort of behavior so I left the sight for good, fortunately with a refund which I didn’t expect.

I would be interested to know if you’ve had any encounters with any funny membership websites.

Well this is the New Year and I’m full of resolutions just like this lady.

http://www.themarketingalchemy.com/2009-a-really-sad-year-for-you/

Only I hope my resolutions are more sincere!

Firstly, I wanted to talk about dinosaurs. I always thought dinosaurs were substantially green and grey in colour but I discovered that was a mistake when I visited my computer man. One look at my computer he announced with ridicule, you have a white one, you have a dinosaur. Did you know the colour of your computer was so important? He didn’t actually specify which particular species of dinosaur it was because I have little knowledge of the prehistoric kind so there was no point in my guessing but he did emphasize that he knew it belonged in that category because of its colour. “I see”, I answered, “So if I have to have a green one instead, will that work better?” He smiled from ear to ear, well almost, because in his case his mouth wasn’t quite wide enough but he emphasised the modern colour is black.  Why hadn’t someone told me that before I wondered? The colour had never been a consideration for me before. I receive hundreds of emails from all sorts of guru’s everyday giving advice on how to run an Internet business but no one had ever mention the importance of the colour of the case and no one had ever told me my problem with the lack of my money making ability was because my computer was white! I obviously was not going to argue at this startling revelation because now he was offering me a new one for only $800 he told me which was all I needed to make a million bucks in 2009 on the Internet so the investment to achieve that was minimal. What could I say but YES! When can I have it?

I usually have a little tease with the man before I pay him but because he’d set me on the road to huge riches this year I found the money quickly and paid him within two days then I noticed a small problem with the machine. I rang him on the following Monday morning to ask for his advice and was told he’d passed away the night before. I was flabbergasted. I been trying to persuade him to give those white paper tubes filled with dead leaves for years but although he had made some effort I don’t think he completely succeeded. I guess his lungs were not in good shape to withstand the pneumonia that caused his demise. How sad. What was I going to do now with my three year warranty because he was a one man band?

By the way, what colour is your computer?